Most men are naturally a bit afraid of their first time having sexual intercourse. Will I enjoy it? Will I satisfy her? Is she the right one? Will I be able to get it up? These are all questions that many men think about before their first time. The truth is that your first few times having sex may not be remembered as your best sex ever. Most men agree that the first time is often fast and very clumsy.

Being Ready
The first thing to consider is the person you are with. You want your first time to be with someone you really care for and that really cares for you in return. Since sex will most likely be not that great the first few times, the person you are with is what you’ll want to remember. Many men often rush into sex before they are ready because their friends are doing it and they are ashamed of being virgins. This should not be your reason, there is no correct amount of time to wait; you just want to make sure that you will not regret the decision later.
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Safe Sex
When approaching the topic of safe sex, the typical first response is something along the lines of; “No sex until marriage!” or “If you make love, where a glove”. In a nutshell, those are the core of most discussions on safe sex.

Although many communities have rules about when a person is and is not allowed to have sex, rules have a tendency of making perceived problems worse then they would have been if left alone… so unsurprisingly, they aren’t working that well. Although we can not disagree with the fact that abstinence is likely the only way to avoid unwanted pregnancy and STDs, the social construct created in at least the western world is not in tune with that philosophy.

Rather then dwelling on when the right time is for everybody, we would just like to remind everyone to stay in tune with their own bodies, and to stay true to themselves as much as possible. If the person you are with isn’t willing to wait for you to be ready, then you can fill this part in yourself…

That said, when you are ready to have sex, you will already know that safe sex is a responsibility of all parties involved, and that knowledge and practice, are the best tools to making sex fun, positive and safe. Use a condom, every time, for any reason, and you will be much less likely to have a problem.
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Foreplay
Foreplay is a fundamental part of the whole lovemaking experience. Most men and women experienced in sex will agree that the best sexual encounters should include long and sensual foreplay. A big part of the fun on any trip is the journey to get there – do yourself a favor and don’t miss out on it. A more attentive form of foreplay will bring increased pleasure to both partners, and make any sexual experience more satisfying.

Both partners need a little extra spice to get fully aroused and achieve maximum pleasure. The man may need to prolong foreplay to get an erection and the women will usually need the same to become properly lubricated. Unless you are both just wanting a ‘quickie’, there is no such thing as spending too much time on foreplay. The trick is to start intercourse when both partners are fully aroused and having a hard time (pun intended) controlling their desires from foreplay.
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Kissing is a delicate art and must be taken slowly with a new partner. It can be part of foreplay/sex – or simply an incredibly enjoyable act of romance and intimacy in its own right.

A good kisser knows how to pace themselves, has an active imagination, and understands what their partner likes or may not expect, but will enjoy. When kissing, remember the following: never slobber, don’t stare, try not to belch, always pay attention with your non-visual senses (touch, hearing, etc.), and there is no such thing as too slow.

If you are unhappy with a kiss then chances are your partner is going to feel the same way. The best thing you can do is relax, and not just in your body, but your face, lips, neck, everywhere. Be relaxed and confident with how you kiss. Let yourself go with the flow of the moment and savour every second of it. While you are kissing, remember to use your hands, nose, and breath to entice your partner’s senses. Everyone enjoys being touched anbd caressed while being kissed. Use your hands to gently caress the cheek, the jawbone, the back, arms, and collarbone. A gentle exhalation of air (remember that good mouth hygiene is important), can provide your partner with extremely light, warm feelings on their face, mouth and neck that are quite arousing.
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